(FYI–this video doesn’t really have anything to do with this post)
Back by popular demand…(I am totally aware I have been slacking and am now back)
So…I am still on my hiatus from dating which has allowed me to see things more clearly. I am able to take in the world around me and focus on some of the things closer to me that I haven’t really noticed before.
A close guy friend of mine last week gave me the best compliment I’ve gotten in a long time.
Me: I have realized that yes I do have a few issues BUT when it boils down to it I really think I am a great catch….
Mr. Hardknock Life: You are. If I wasn’t in a relationship I would totally date you. Hell, if something happened to my girl and I, Lord forbid, I would wife you up right now.
I was so touched by this that I disregarded the fact that he used the w-word and teared up. (Yes, the Ice Queen is slowly but surely melting). He felt like I am such a great catch that he would place almost 7 years of friendship on the line to embark on a partnership with me. I was amazed seeing as how the #1 excuse for men avoiding relationships with “girl friends” is ‘I don’t wanna mess up the friendship we already have but I will sleep with you.’
Then it appeared to me, maybe I shouldn’t be so against dating a guy friend. Like I said a few posts ago, It would be the best of both worlds, and if we are truly friends, our friendship could survive a parting of ways.
So no, I have not ended the dating fast as of yet, but I will say that I have opened the pool a little wider for Mr. Future Husband because what would be better than to date someone that already knows you so well. Maybe I can have my real life “Brown Sugar” and get the buddy & the booty…
Tom Papa said it best “Marriage is not about your soul-mate, its about finding someone you can tolerate for the rest of your life and not throw up every time you think about having to sleep next to that person.”
FYI–I am NOT in love with my best friend….
Who’s the friend?
Totally feel u on this one.
I used to live by the ” never date my friends” rule
but have recently realized that I could be
potentially closing the door on a potentially amazing
relationship that’s had years of trust and respect as
foundation. When ur old and grey u want to end up with
someone who’ll be a friend that’ll be there for u.
Who better than the men that have shown that there for u already?
I think I know who he is. hmmmmm. interesting…
the best relationships are the ones where a strong foundation was built as a friendship.