I just had a particularly interesting conversation with AP…After a day at the beach with her and one of our other besties, on the car ride home they had a very in depth conversation regarding women, and their roles in relationships….
More often than not women gripe about all of their trials and tribulations with men. Now, men sometimes, for lack of a better word, are dogs…BUT like the song says-the dog ALWAYS chases the pussy Kitty Kat.
If a woman has dated NOTHING but dogs, it does not mean that there aren’t any good men, it just means that there is something that she is projecting that immediately attracts a certain type of male.
So lets pause….Venus, what type of male do you always attract? Now, I have dated what looks like a variety of men but when it boils down to it they all had one thing in common-CHARM.
I ALWAYS fall for the charm. Let me get one thing straight, game and charm are two different things. Charm is natural whereas game is learned. Charm is that natural ability to sweep a woman off her feet and wiggle your way out a situation where you KNOW you are dead wrong. Yes, as much of a tough cookie as I like to think that I am, if you have charm, I eat it up like its peaches and cream. (no pun intended)
I am not saying that this excuses some of the ratchet behavior I have encountered throughout my years of dating BUT I will say that now that I realize the quality I always seem to be a sucker for, rather than to simply fall victim or runaway from this man, I will look beyond the charm and see what is at the root of his foundation.
It is time for us as women to take our own destinies in our own hands and project ourselves to be the type of woman for the man that we want to date. It works two ways…if you are projecting that you are a ho loose yet you want a man who is strictly monogamist and the biggest cheerleader for love, what would make you think that he would want to date you when you are actually the type of woman he tries to stay away from. Just as much as women want a certain type of man, I have come to learn men want a certain type of woman.
So the next time you are taking a trip down memory lane and bashing all of the dog’s and chumps you’ve dated in your past, pause, and take a note to self…if that’s ALL of the men you date, its you.
Note: SiSi, I am still working on the blog you proposed I do…but in the meantime….